At every single wedding this summer, every single human who prefers a dress to pants will be wearing the same exact things. They’ll be in the same pretty dresses that caught your eye in April and May, the ones they purchased early to get it out of the way. They’ll be in the same frocks you considered at the beginning of June; the same silhouettes you’ve seen on the matrimonial circuit since Memorial Day. They’ll be in the trendy colors, the ubiquitous patterns, with the same ruffles, the same ribbons. They will be wearing the dresses you were this close to buying because they were cute and flattering and you’d wear them again.
But you didn’t go through any of these, did you? Something felt off. You knew deep inside that they were not The Ones.
Plus, you had seven other dresses haunting you, their voices riding on a far away wind that has just now reached you:
Wear meeeeeeeeeeee. Wear meeeeeeeeeee!!!
Spooky! But so chic.
Try a dramatic take on the wrap dress — show a little leg, risk a little white (I mean, know your bride or groom, know your audience, but I think this is fine?). Try a Fran Drescher Pink silky two-piece for day or night. Try a couch-print floral with sleeves that will remind all the wedding aunts of their 1980s bridesmaid heydays. Try a tea dress, then step it up with a belt that doesn’t go and add wrap-around-the-ankle sandals (no dance floor flip flops for you). Try a dress that’s as tiered as the wedding cake and, if you can, make it match the sorbet. Try a polkadot frock in unexpected-for-a-wedding crayon colors like “hunter green” and “burnt Sienna.” Or why not try a dress that may very well play it safe, but add thick-soled, thick-strapped sandals to make it weird?
You certainly won’t look like anyone else, but even if you do, the most important thing, I think, is that you’ve gotta be able to dance.
Modeled by Havilah Tillmon, follow her on Instagram @havuni. Photos by Edith Young.