The Rules of Texting Your Dad

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Dads love the weather. They are always talking about predicted snowstorms and heatwaves while providing tips for maximum safety. Dads also love traffic reports. They stay up-to-date on driving conditions, backed-up tunnels and parking and are the only humans who still tune into AM radio. They love announcing random backyard animal sightings and reporting the minutia of their days. Dads love to break news about grocery-store sales, or when there’s a contest to win a frozen turkey, which is always. A dad’s favorite thing to do is warn anyone who will listen about the perils of having their identity stolen. And at 10’clock, every dad likes to ask where his kid is. (And who she’s with, and which one is that again?)

It’s all proof that every single dad in the whole wide world could operate as a one-man public-access news channel…if only he could remember what channel it was on or find The Damn Remote™.

This is why he has you, of course, the recipient of his Dad Texts. You are his loyal audience and target demographic, locked into his endless monologue by familial ties and also because you may or may not still be on his phone plan. This way of communicating did not come easy. It took time, mutual respect and patience. So much patience. Yet after an array of emoji tutorials and at least three “gif” explanations (you’re still working on screenshot memes — he keeps asks you about the comments below the caption and misses the point of what you thought was funny), you learned that Dad Texts are just another way of saying “I love you.”

I’m sure you’re a pro, but just in case, here are the rules of Dad Texts.

1. Always be on call to answer questions about pop culture and Facebook.
Even when you yourself have no idea what he is talking about.

2. Keep a running list of your dad’s passwords, including capitalization and potential additional security questions.
Then remain calm as he assures you it’s not working. (He just forgot to do the capitalization as you said. Give him three tries but if he locks himself out, for the sake of your sanity, turn your phone off for a bit.)

3. Express excitement any time he sends you photos of his most recent Home Depot Garden Center acquisitions.
If you’re too busy for a word-y response, a bouquet of exclamation points will suffice.

4. Be prepared to answer random bits of trivia at all times.
You are his phone-a-friend.

5. Not every text warrants a response. 
To dads, the father/daughter text chain is as much a way to communicate as it is a diary for their various random streams of consciousness and hour-by-hour life updates.

6. Don’t forget to sign up for weather alerts!
Just kidding. There’s no sign up. You’re getting these updates whether you want them or not.

7. Brace yourself for unsolicited advice.
Breathe because he means well and be thankful you have your very own life coach on call 24/7 except for when he’s watching Dancing With the Stars or reading the latest John Grisham novel.

8. Learn to meditate.
A text from dad can be a gift or trigger your Sunday Scaries five days early.

9. When dealing with logistics, NEVER CALL. Always text.
If he can’t hear you, he’ll go into worst-case-scenario mode.

10. Memorize at least a few of his most frequently-used parking spots and driving routes.
He’s going to tell you about them anyway (especially when stuck in traffic and Wayze suggests something risky). It’s nice to know what the hell he’s talking about.

So long as you are exceptionally clear, don’t use weird lingo and are careful to either not make or correct typos (dads read them literally and in some cases, this can cause panic) you and your dad have a life of beautiful conversation ahead. In fact, I think he’s texting you right now.

Tell me what he says in the comments below or better yet, get him to join in.

Amelia Diamond

Amelia Diamond

Amelia Diamond is a writer, creative consultant, and Man Repeller alumnus living in New York City.

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